Sandy is married to a man who, when he found out what was wrong, gave her his loving reassurance that he would always be there for her. She has not been able to work for 5 years so he has paid all the bills for her treatment and therapy. For five years she has been suffering from anorexia, and he has spent a lot of money on her.
Today she said: "I am so angry with men, they are so insensitive. I have been in recovery for the last five years. I do OK most days but my head's still a mess. Now I am just over 100 lbs and I say something about switching back to this old therapist of mine who was easier to deal with but not covered by my insurance. Then he says, "Do you really need to keep going? It's not like you are too thin anymore?" Well, that sounded like I was a fat pig who was not worth the money. I know this man loves me and is just stressed about money but I am sitting here debating fasting for at least 30 days if not more...but it would be to punish him and myself too, obviously."
For five years Sandy has knowingly starved herself and weakened herself to the extent that she is exploiting her husband and draining him dry, of both money and patience. She is stretching the relationship about as far as it can go, for if he shows any signs that he is going back on his promise to pay for her treatment, she will punish him by starving. That will put him on a guilt trip and make him feel responsible for keeping her alive.
Now what if Sandy is a wombtwin survivor? What if this is her Dream of the Womb? Has she become her own Beta twin, starving to death because there is insufficient food available for her? What if there was a male twin in the womb who died and she survived?
To see the truth we need to turn this story upside down: Sandy was the one who got all the food in the womb, and drained her twin brother of sufficient nutrients to survive. She is the strong survivor, able to survive on very little herself (as many wombtwin survivors are) and prepared to risk everything in this relationship. One day she may be left alone, abandoned by the male who was once her intimate companion. Surely she is re-enacting her Dream of the Womb. If she is, then all this would be a perfectly normal response, for quite obviously Sandy has no idea so far that she is a wombtwin survivor. She must therefore continually relive the life and death of her wombtwin, for as we now know, nothing - not loving relationships or even life itself - is more important than that.
When a twin dies before birth, the sole survivor needs help and understanding. Womb twin survivors are the sole survivors of a twin or multiple pregnancy. This group, 1 in 10 of the population, includes survivors of a stillbirth, miscarriage, abortion and a "vanishing twin" pregnancy. It is a story of a twin bond broken by death, leaving a lonely survivor.
Wednesday, February 27, 2008
Monday, February 25, 2008
Janet Frame: a perfectly normal wombtwin survivor
Janet Frame was born into a poor family Dunedin New Zealand in 1924 and died of leukaemia in 2004, by which time she was - and still is - a writer of international renown. During her life she published many volumes of novel and poetry, of such a high standard that she is now counted among the greatest writers of her generation.
Janet Frame was a wombtwin survivor. Her identical twin was lost in early pregnancy. I discovered this quite by chance recently, and I also noticed that she had written an autobiography. Here was a great chance to get a glimpse inside the mind of a wombtwin survivor, who presumably was not aware, as we are now, that the loss of a twin in the womb leaves a deep psychological impression on the survivor. I bought a copy of her autobiography and I was not disappointed: here is a very fine writer indeed.
Very much as you would expect, according to her book, Janet Frame evidently felt like other wombtwin survivors who had lost their identical twin in the womb. Here was a strong side and a weak side, both described in detail in her writing for public view.
Here we see the two sides of the wombtwin survivor: the Alpha twin and the Beta twin. The wombtwin survivor lives out both aspects of their twin-ship at once, in a paradoxical mode of existence. The weaker Beta side of the wombtwin survivor can be seen in this autobiography : feeling alone; a deep haunting sense of painful grief, a need for privacy and an exquisite sensitivity to the feelings of others. The Alpha strength is here too: to survive loss and privation without rancour and build an international reputation and a strong career on a natural gift for poetry - not an easy thing to do, as any poet will tell you.
As a young girl, Janet was “full of tics and terrors”; at school she was compliant and obeyed adults, because inwardly she felt her “only place of rebellion” was within her imagination. She had once attempted suicide, (as many wombtwin survivors do) and at University she mentioned it in an autobiographical essay, submitted to her psychology lecturer, John Money. As a result of this, it was suggested that “she spend some time” in a psychiatric hospital, which she did and was later diagnosed as “schizophrenic.”
Meanwhile, her family gathered together some of her stories and sent them for publication. They were published in 1952. In 1954 this book won New Zealand's only literary award. It happened that Janet was at that time scheduled for a lobotomy (now known as a leucotomy) which was a favourite treatment of the time for chronic psychosis. The operation was famously cancelled as a result and she entered into a period of rehabilitation and was released. Many years later, in London at the Maudsely hospital, she was assessed carefully and was told she “never had schizophrenia.” By her own account, it was quite difficult at first for her to cast off this diagnosis, because it had become so firmly embedded in her sense of self.
Sadly, mental illness associated with her name has remained to this day in the public consciousness of New Zealand, as various experts have attempted to make sense of Janet Frames’ seemingly highly eccentric, if not mad, psychological makeup. It has been recently suggested that she may have suffered from “high functioning autism.”
This suggestion has been firmly refuted by her family, who knew her as a warm and outgoing personality with a great capacity for joy and a great gift for making new friends. They insist that the portrayal of Janet Frame “as a hypersensitive, wounded and isolated person, with communication and linguistic impairments, is very wrong.” She was always open to a new friendship, and in a search for kindred spirits, but she was also remarkable in that she never let go of her old friends either. She managed to tend carefully to very old and very new friendships
The outer "Alpha" Janet seems to have been strong and confident. She often stood up to and argued with her teachers. She was a leader and a debater. She was a prefect. She had close friends. According to her family “She was bossy and articulate, a jokester and a very self-assured person.”
Meanwhile, the inner "Beta' Janet, most evident in her early years, was evidently quite unsure of who she was, for she seemed unable to allow herself to be gifted unless someone told her that she was. She did not consider herself as an introspective person. She didn’t know herself, but was “hesitant in finding out.” She spend a long time in search of “imagination,” unable to find it in herself, and not able to believe that she had it - until she was told. For a long time she didn’t know that she possessed imagination, because “so far no-one had mentioned it.” However, when John Money remarked that she was “quite a talented writer,” then she could believe in herself at last.
There is a great deal more to be said about this, and it should be said. It is wrong that this wonderful warm person, who has contributed so much to the literary scene of her own country and around the world, should carry such a slur on her character. It is time that we put a stop to the misdiagnoses that so many wombtwin survivors have to endure.
The concept of “personality disorders" seems to have been invited for the sole purpose of explaining the beliefs, behaviours and attitudes of wombtwin survivors, who number 10% of the population. Wombtwin survivors are not " disordered" or "mentally ill": they are reacting perfectly normally to a rather unusual pre-birth situation.
This was a very damaging mis-diagnosis, made out of ignorance. I can't get my book written fast enough!
Janet Frame was a wombtwin survivor. Her identical twin was lost in early pregnancy. I discovered this quite by chance recently, and I also noticed that she had written an autobiography. Here was a great chance to get a glimpse inside the mind of a wombtwin survivor, who presumably was not aware, as we are now, that the loss of a twin in the womb leaves a deep psychological impression on the survivor. I bought a copy of her autobiography and I was not disappointed: here is a very fine writer indeed.
Very much as you would expect, according to her book, Janet Frame evidently felt like other wombtwin survivors who had lost their identical twin in the womb. Here was a strong side and a weak side, both described in detail in her writing for public view.
Here we see the two sides of the wombtwin survivor: the Alpha twin and the Beta twin. The wombtwin survivor lives out both aspects of their twin-ship at once, in a paradoxical mode of existence. The weaker Beta side of the wombtwin survivor can be seen in this autobiography : feeling alone; a deep haunting sense of painful grief, a need for privacy and an exquisite sensitivity to the feelings of others. The Alpha strength is here too: to survive loss and privation without rancour and build an international reputation and a strong career on a natural gift for poetry - not an easy thing to do, as any poet will tell you.
As a young girl, Janet was “full of tics and terrors”; at school she was compliant and obeyed adults, because inwardly she felt her “only place of rebellion” was within her imagination. She had once attempted suicide, (as many wombtwin survivors do) and at University she mentioned it in an autobiographical essay, submitted to her psychology lecturer, John Money. As a result of this, it was suggested that “she spend some time” in a psychiatric hospital, which she did and was later diagnosed as “schizophrenic.”
Meanwhile, her family gathered together some of her stories and sent them for publication. They were published in 1952. In 1954 this book won New Zealand's only literary award. It happened that Janet was at that time scheduled for a lobotomy (now known as a leucotomy) which was a favourite treatment of the time for chronic psychosis. The operation was famously cancelled as a result and she entered into a period of rehabilitation and was released. Many years later, in London at the Maudsely hospital, she was assessed carefully and was told she “never had schizophrenia.” By her own account, it was quite difficult at first for her to cast off this diagnosis, because it had become so firmly embedded in her sense of self.
Sadly, mental illness associated with her name has remained to this day in the public consciousness of New Zealand, as various experts have attempted to make sense of Janet Frames’ seemingly highly eccentric, if not mad, psychological makeup. It has been recently suggested that she may have suffered from “high functioning autism.”
This suggestion has been firmly refuted by her family, who knew her as a warm and outgoing personality with a great capacity for joy and a great gift for making new friends. They insist that the portrayal of Janet Frame “as a hypersensitive, wounded and isolated person, with communication and linguistic impairments, is very wrong.” She was always open to a new friendship, and in a search for kindred spirits, but she was also remarkable in that she never let go of her old friends either. She managed to tend carefully to very old and very new friendships
The outer "Alpha" Janet seems to have been strong and confident. She often stood up to and argued with her teachers. She was a leader and a debater. She was a prefect. She had close friends. According to her family “She was bossy and articulate, a jokester and a very self-assured person.”
Meanwhile, the inner "Beta' Janet, most evident in her early years, was evidently quite unsure of who she was, for she seemed unable to allow herself to be gifted unless someone told her that she was. She did not consider herself as an introspective person. She didn’t know herself, but was “hesitant in finding out.” She spend a long time in search of “imagination,” unable to find it in herself, and not able to believe that she had it - until she was told. For a long time she didn’t know that she possessed imagination, because “so far no-one had mentioned it.” However, when John Money remarked that she was “quite a talented writer,” then she could believe in herself at last.
There is a great deal more to be said about this, and it should be said. It is wrong that this wonderful warm person, who has contributed so much to the literary scene of her own country and around the world, should carry such a slur on her character. It is time that we put a stop to the misdiagnoses that so many wombtwin survivors have to endure.
The concept of “personality disorders" seems to have been invited for the sole purpose of explaining the beliefs, behaviours and attitudes of wombtwin survivors, who number 10% of the population. Wombtwin survivors are not " disordered" or "mentally ill": they are reacting perfectly normally to a rather unusual pre-birth situation.
This was a very damaging mis-diagnosis, made out of ignorance. I can't get my book written fast enough!
Saturday, February 16, 2008
Is YOUR child a wombtwin survivor?
A wombtwin survivor is the sole survivor of a twin or multiple pregnancy. That means a pregnancy begins with two babies but ends up with just one. The twin may die at any stage of the pregnancy even up to the time of birth. That includes what they call a "vanishing twin" pregnancy.
As the psychological difficulties that wombtwin survivors face are being more widely discussed, and all kinds of theories are being aired, some parents are beginning to worry.
Anna wrote to me: "Simon, my 3 year old, is a surviving twin. When the placenta came out the doctor found a dead identical twin. I was recently told that there have been studies done that show some cases of the living child taking on the dead one's personality. My son is like two people, one way one minute and completely different the next. I want to know if this is something I need to worry about."
Should parents worry if their child is a wombtwin survivor?
It is now known from several studies that many surviving twins become distressed at some point in life, often in adolescence, but also some surviving twins are not at all distressed. Researchers have yet to understand why this is. It seem that the loss of a fraternal twin is less traumatic than the loss of an identical twin. The deep bond between twins, forged in the womb is strongest between identical twins and the identical wombtwin survivors do seem to be the most likely to be distressed by their pre-birth experience.
What can parents do for wombtwin survivors?
There is a lot that parents can do: research seems to indicate that if an individual knows for sure from the beginning that they once had a twin, that does became part of who they are. Then they understand their feelings better if they do get upset at any time. They can know they are responding perfectly normally to the genuine loss of their "other half". A loving family and lots of encouragement and love seems to help a great deal, so in many cases a surviving twin will grow up with little more than a tendency to moodiness.
The loss of a twin, like any major event taking place during pregnancy, is worth keeping in mind as a potential effect (either positive and negative) on your child's development as an individual. The science of pre-birth psychology is now well established and we can be sure that our time in the womb does much to shape our personality in born life. Wombtwin survivors are a particularly interesting case in point.
Best practice for parents with a wombtwin survivor in the family
As the psychological difficulties that wombtwin survivors face are being more widely discussed, and all kinds of theories are being aired, some parents are beginning to worry.
Anna wrote to me: "Simon, my 3 year old, is a surviving twin. When the placenta came out the doctor found a dead identical twin. I was recently told that there have been studies done that show some cases of the living child taking on the dead one's personality. My son is like two people, one way one minute and completely different the next. I want to know if this is something I need to worry about."
Should parents worry if their child is a wombtwin survivor?
It is now known from several studies that many surviving twins become distressed at some point in life, often in adolescence, but also some surviving twins are not at all distressed. Researchers have yet to understand why this is. It seem that the loss of a fraternal twin is less traumatic than the loss of an identical twin. The deep bond between twins, forged in the womb is strongest between identical twins and the identical wombtwin survivors do seem to be the most likely to be distressed by their pre-birth experience.
What can parents do for wombtwin survivors?
There is a lot that parents can do: research seems to indicate that if an individual knows for sure from the beginning that they once had a twin, that does became part of who they are. Then they understand their feelings better if they do get upset at any time. They can know they are responding perfectly normally to the genuine loss of their "other half". A loving family and lots of encouragement and love seems to help a great deal, so in many cases a surviving twin will grow up with little more than a tendency to moodiness.
The loss of a twin, like any major event taking place during pregnancy, is worth keeping in mind as a potential effect (either positive and negative) on your child's development as an individual. The science of pre-birth psychology is now well established and we can be sure that our time in the womb does much to shape our personality in born life. Wombtwin survivors are a particularly interesting case in point.
Best practice for parents with a wombtwin survivor in the family
- Tell your child about their twin and tell them early in life
- Keep yourself well informed about the medical details of that particular pregnancy, so you will be able to answer questions as they arise, at various stages of your child's life.
- Keep informed about the potential psychological effects of pre-birth twin loss so you can notice any problems arising.
- Make contact with other parents of wombtwin survivors for mutual support and good information.
- Create some kind of physical proof of your child's lost twin: a statue, soft toy or plant in the garden etc. as a focus for your child's feelings of sadness or loss, should any such feelings arise.
- Validate your own child's feelings in the face of public scepticism that wombtwin survivors truly do feel a sense of something missing - however hard it is for you to believe that!
- Love, accept and encourage your child, as you would any of your other children.
- The fact that your young wombtwin survivor is "different" can be celebrated as a special gift, for they are often very sensitive, caring and empathetic little people.
Friday, February 15, 2008
Insult arises out of injury
I found this post yesterday. It spoke to me of someone deeply hurt - but someone who doesn't know why it hurts so much. He feels "crushed" and "not strong enough" to face the hurt. Read on, and I'll tell you afterwards why I think this man is an undiagnosed wombtwin survivor. The object of this post is to demonstrate how one can read between the lines of what a person says and find the pre-birth trauma there in amazing detail, if you know how to look. It's how I do the "wombtwin work".
i hate my life, and i do at this moment, i am crushed. Don't ask me for the reasons, my life just sucks more than usual sometimes and i'm not strong enough to face some things, just not yet.
Anyway, some people told me many interesting things, many good things. But some others, well, the last thing you want to hear is "how pathetic you look", from people who don't know a s***t, know what I mean?
i actually feel sorry for them, they can't see beyond their noses. i read so much ignorance and stupidity, i just felt so bad. i have the right to have feelings, right? i have the right to write how i'm feeling, and i have the right to ask for advice, for help. But some people are sooooo stupid.
i feel bad 'cause i know they have problems, and they don't face them. They pretend to be perfect and insult people who are trying to get better - people who accept that life is hard and that acceptance is not perfect (like they try to pretend to be.)
i just have some words for you guys, You s**k! and would you mind keeping your f***ng mouth shut? thank you. You make the human race look stupid and bad.
The venom behind this outburst is palpable. There is real rage here, expressed as a desire to insult.
1. Here is someone (lets call him Reg) who cant stand to be criticised, and in particular to be described as "pathetic". Yet he already believes he is "crushed" and "not strong enough." That belief would probably be enough to make him appear "pathetic " to others. Yet once the description of " pathetic" has been given Reg is free to throw that back as an insult.
2. Now here its very important that Reg is the winner in the" how painful is my insult?" competition that Reg himself has initiated. He chooses "stupid" and "ignorant" as a worse insult than "pathetic. " The belief here is that Stupid will trump Pathetic.
3. In a classic piece if what psychotherapists call "projection". The insult is seen by Reg as coming from the other. It is possible that the other person was very low in intelligence and furthermore completely ignorant of the inner pain of this individual, but this is not to be so: the accusation of stupidity is the worse insult. So in response to the assumed insult a further and larger insult is handed out with a few additional swearwords, just to drive it all home.
4 The final act is to condemn the presumed insulter to silence. The presumption here us that if everyone leaves Reg alone and stops insulting him, then the whole human race will be up-graded The implicit meaning here is that somehow the person who named him as "pathetic " is themselves pathetic - a subhuman being. It is as if Reg wishes to make it quite quite clear that he an Alpha person and the other is a Beta person.
5 One assumes that having re-established his position and vented his spleen (impotently, on a blog) Reg then feels more at peace. He may imagine he has "asserted himself" and "let the anger out" but of course he is wrong. That perpetual painful, seething resentment will still be there, awaiting another presumed "insult" to set it free.
So where is the wombtwin story here?
A little crushed person, not strong enough to survive, without enough of a brain to respond appropriately or to survive. The beta twin who died away leaving the sole survivor alone, master of his own little world but forever bonded to a pathetic little creature who seems to be part of himself.
The powerful rage is the only expression available of this feeling of being torn in two; no one understands that Reg is "not strong enough to get better", and that is the pain. Out of the pain comes the strong capacity to give insults and his re-assertion of himself as the Alpha.
Its a muddle and a tragedy that monozygotic wombtwin survivors (like Reg) must constantly hurt others because they can't understand that the pain is theirs and has been there all their lives.
i hate my life, and i do at this moment, i am crushed. Don't ask me for the reasons, my life just sucks more than usual sometimes and i'm not strong enough to face some things, just not yet.
Anyway, some people told me many interesting things, many good things. But some others, well, the last thing you want to hear is "how pathetic you look", from people who don't know a s***t, know what I mean?
i actually feel sorry for them, they can't see beyond their noses. i read so much ignorance and stupidity, i just felt so bad. i have the right to have feelings, right? i have the right to write how i'm feeling, and i have the right to ask for advice, for help. But some people are sooooo stupid.
i feel bad 'cause i know they have problems, and they don't face them. They pretend to be perfect and insult people who are trying to get better - people who accept that life is hard and that acceptance is not perfect (like they try to pretend to be.)
i just have some words for you guys, You s**k! and would you mind keeping your f***ng mouth shut? thank you. You make the human race look stupid and bad.
The venom behind this outburst is palpable. There is real rage here, expressed as a desire to insult.
1. Here is someone (lets call him Reg) who cant stand to be criticised, and in particular to be described as "pathetic". Yet he already believes he is "crushed" and "not strong enough." That belief would probably be enough to make him appear "pathetic " to others. Yet once the description of " pathetic" has been given Reg is free to throw that back as an insult.
2. Now here its very important that Reg is the winner in the" how painful is my insult?" competition that Reg himself has initiated. He chooses "stupid" and "ignorant" as a worse insult than "pathetic. " The belief here is that Stupid will trump Pathetic.
3. In a classic piece if what psychotherapists call "projection". The insult is seen by Reg as coming from the other. It is possible that the other person was very low in intelligence and furthermore completely ignorant of the inner pain of this individual, but this is not to be so: the accusation of stupidity is the worse insult. So in response to the assumed insult a further and larger insult is handed out with a few additional swearwords, just to drive it all home.
4 The final act is to condemn the presumed insulter to silence. The presumption here us that if everyone leaves Reg alone and stops insulting him, then the whole human race will be up-graded The implicit meaning here is that somehow the person who named him as "pathetic " is themselves pathetic - a subhuman being. It is as if Reg wishes to make it quite quite clear that he an Alpha person and the other is a Beta person.
5 One assumes that having re-established his position and vented his spleen (impotently, on a blog) Reg then feels more at peace. He may imagine he has "asserted himself" and "let the anger out" but of course he is wrong. That perpetual painful, seething resentment will still be there, awaiting another presumed "insult" to set it free.
So where is the wombtwin story here?
A little crushed person, not strong enough to survive, without enough of a brain to respond appropriately or to survive. The beta twin who died away leaving the sole survivor alone, master of his own little world but forever bonded to a pathetic little creature who seems to be part of himself.
The powerful rage is the only expression available of this feeling of being torn in two; no one understands that Reg is "not strong enough to get better", and that is the pain. Out of the pain comes the strong capacity to give insults and his re-assertion of himself as the Alpha.
Its a muddle and a tragedy that monozygotic wombtwin survivors (like Reg) must constantly hurt others because they can't understand that the pain is theirs and has been there all their lives.
Saturday, February 02, 2008
Are the "indigo" people wombtwin survivors?
A new kind of person is beginning to be identified in the population. They are known as "Indigo" people. I have studied what they say about themselves for several years now, and I have come to the astonishing conclusion that they are probably multiple wombtwin survivors: that is, they had at least two other embryos with them in the womb as they were developing. By means of my questionnaire in 2002 I quickly discovered there there were three groups of wombtwin survivors. At first I called them M types (mourning) C types (captive) and D types who were a kind of mixture of the two - I guessed then that these may be the survivors of a multiple pregnancy, but there was of course no proof and I knew so little then. I just held this in mind. Now I know that these groups represent the fraternal, identical and multiple wombtwin survivors, respectively.
If it is true that at least 10 % of pregnancies are twin or multiple pregnancies producing one child, then there are more than 600 million wombtwin survivors in the world. 10% of the population is a huge group and I have wondered how they may be identified. Some of them have identified themselves as "twinless twins" and of course many others have come to this site and identified themselves as "wombtwin survivors." There is however a much more homogeneous group who can identify themselves as "indigo people."
An indigo person is gifted in extraordinary ways.
If you are an indigo, your mind constantly races, filled with a constant tumbling stream of fresh ideas. You are highly creative and imaginative and easily use and understand metaphor. You are hyper-sensitive, hyper-intuitive and hyper-aware, to the extent of being psychic. When with other people you readily become attuned to their feelings and you have accurate empathy with them. You have a sense of the pain in others and in a desire to heal their pain you may carry it away from that encounter as if it were your own. Your hypersensitivity and imagination can undermine your ability to trust in others as you constantly scan their body language, or can enable to you to pick out a soul mate at one glance. You can sense changes in atmosphere and often answer unspoken questions or carry out unspoken requests.
Some issues are particularly difficult - disappointed expectations and unfairness in particular. Rather than disappoint someone else you will walk that extra mile for them but then be disappointed when they wont do the same for you. If people are not treated equally then this enrages you - you deeply resent labels, rules and any constraints unequally applied to you or to others.
Indigos are often preoccupied with certain social or environmental problems. Their lives are characterised by a prevailing sense of unease, a sense of "knowing", but not knowing what they do know.
Above all the indigo feels alone, different, abandoned and far from home. Life is a painful struggle to find the lost world of the past, where everything was once whole and good. Driven by a deep sense of mission to heal the world and everyone in it, the indigo seeks to heal pain wherever it can be found, on a rescue mission through which the indigo can also be saved. For them, the woundedness becomes the gift, and that is the healing.
This kind of person is not new
There are echoes in the most ancient myths about wounded healers people possessing extraordinary gifts and hyper-awareness.
Here is the story of Cheiron, the wounded healer, as described in the Greek myths. We find him today in the Indigo, and with the help of wombtwin survivor theory, we can see how that lifelong wound may be healed.
If it is true that at least 10 % of pregnancies are twin or multiple pregnancies producing one child, then there are more than 600 million wombtwin survivors in the world. 10% of the population is a huge group and I have wondered how they may be identified. Some of them have identified themselves as "twinless twins" and of course many others have come to this site and identified themselves as "wombtwin survivors." There is however a much more homogeneous group who can identify themselves as "indigo people."
An indigo person is gifted in extraordinary ways.
If you are an indigo, your mind constantly races, filled with a constant tumbling stream of fresh ideas. You are highly creative and imaginative and easily use and understand metaphor. You are hyper-sensitive, hyper-intuitive and hyper-aware, to the extent of being psychic. When with other people you readily become attuned to their feelings and you have accurate empathy with them. You have a sense of the pain in others and in a desire to heal their pain you may carry it away from that encounter as if it were your own. Your hypersensitivity and imagination can undermine your ability to trust in others as you constantly scan their body language, or can enable to you to pick out a soul mate at one glance. You can sense changes in atmosphere and often answer unspoken questions or carry out unspoken requests.
Some issues are particularly difficult - disappointed expectations and unfairness in particular. Rather than disappoint someone else you will walk that extra mile for them but then be disappointed when they wont do the same for you. If people are not treated equally then this enrages you - you deeply resent labels, rules and any constraints unequally applied to you or to others.
Indigos are often preoccupied with certain social or environmental problems. Their lives are characterised by a prevailing sense of unease, a sense of "knowing", but not knowing what they do know.
Above all the indigo feels alone, different, abandoned and far from home. Life is a painful struggle to find the lost world of the past, where everything was once whole and good. Driven by a deep sense of mission to heal the world and everyone in it, the indigo seeks to heal pain wherever it can be found, on a rescue mission through which the indigo can also be saved. For them, the woundedness becomes the gift, and that is the healing.
This kind of person is not new
There are echoes in the most ancient myths about wounded healers people possessing extraordinary gifts and hyper-awareness.
Here is the story of Cheiron, the wounded healer, as described in the Greek myths. We find him today in the Indigo, and with the help of wombtwin survivor theory, we can see how that lifelong wound may be healed.
Friday, February 01, 2008
Press release for London Conference June 2008
I now have a press release.
I would be very grateful if any of you reading this would take a moment to email this link to anyone who may be remotely interested. This will be the first-ever conference on this subject.
The conference will be of interest to:
I would be very grateful if any of you reading this would take a moment to email this link to anyone who may be remotely interested. This will be the first-ever conference on this subject.
The conference will be of interest to:
- people who know they are wombtwin survivors, or who lost their twin at birth
- people who wonder if they may possibly be a wombtwin survivor
- parents of a wombtwin survivor
- pregnant women who have seen a "vanishing" twin on the ultrasound
- medical professionals interested in twinning or multiple birth issues
- psychotherapists who have discovered wombtwin survivors in the course of their work
- psychologists and psychiatrists, interested in exploring pre-birth influences on human psychology
- specialists in pre- and perinatal psychotherapy
- counsellors who may have wombtwin survivors among their clients
- physical therapists (kinaesiologists, chiropractors etc)
- family constellation workers
- journalists who are interested in the fascinating story of how we remember the womb
and so on!
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