Healing fables

Today I posted onto my wombtwin survivors project site yet another story sent to me by a wombtwin survivor. I knew when I read it then this story would speak to many others, and so its so great to have these stores on the site. 

See the whole collection here.

Then I thought: years ago, I wrote some fables that documented my own healing journey and since then I have added more. I know that these fables will speak to many people, and I  am waiting for time and money to publish them. But why? Wombtwin survivors need them now!!

So today, inspired by this talented wombtwin survivor who sent me his story so willingly and who said that it helped him to write it, I have put my fables on the site for anyone to read. They once helped me and now they may help others. They are here. 

Do please enjoy them and tell me what you think.

Icarus: the paradox of the identical survivor

I have been exploring Greek myths, to see what  lost twin scripts I can find there.  Icarus wanted to fly so much, that he made himself some wings stuck on with wax. In his arrogance he flew so close to the sun that the wax that held his wings together melted and he fell into the sea and drowned.  

In the identical survivor I find a two-in-one script, and here it is again with Icarus, plus a nice overlay of self-sabotage, brought about by too much personal pride.  I find that identical wombtwin survivors are often two people in one; two opposite personalities struggle for survival within the psyche. Jekyll and Hyde - there's another twin story.  Of course the story always ends in tragedy,  for that was the original script formed in the womb: two identical embryos fought for survival, but only one was left alive.  In the re-enactment  in born life, all is lost and tragedy results. Hubris and Nemesis. 

How can identical survivors learn to stay away from danger and tragedy? Only by fully embracing life, and taking more care to stay alive.   Self forgiveness - that's what does it. To forgive yourself the sin of being alive.  When life hurts, then to let life fizzle out and fade away, never really getting off the ground - that seems right.  A kind of justice.  If you do get of the ground and take flight, then never let it work: make sure those wings break and fail, just like Icarus.

That "UNBORN" film

So this is how it goes: what might have been a great chance for wombtwin survivors to be understood, has been totally screwed up.  David S. Goyer has done a lousy job with UNBORN. The reviews coming out of  Hollywood may be justifiably scathing, because without doubt this film is dire in the extreme, but it is also evident that the reviewers have absolutely no idea whatever about the concept of the twin lost before birth.  see here   So if one of Goyer's ideas was to get the amazing concept of the vanished twin into the public eye, he has failed.

So here are four mistakes:

1. The producer has taken an idea he knows nothing about and has evidently done no background research whatever into the psychological  effects of prebirth twin loss.

2. He has made it a horror film and this is not a horrible story so much as a sad one. Furthermore if the concept of the vanished twin is regarded as " horrid" then parents  of wombtwin survivors will not be inclined to let their children know - and we know that it is best for them to be told - they know inwardly anyway, but it is reassuring to know you are not crazy.

3 Like all horror moviemakers he has muddled up all kinds of trigger ideas like ghosts, hauntings,  the experiments on Jews etc into a mishmash that doesnt work

4 Like all Hollywood film makers, he is trying to be too clever and make money out of a highly sensitive issue that is accompanied by a whole lot of personal pain. In his insensitivity he has managed to insult wombtwin survivors around the world, and there are at least 600,000,000 of them. I dont suppose any of them will watch this film.

-sigh-