Monday, October 24, 2011

Narcissus: the urge to merge

The sole survivor of a monozygotic twin may seek to merge with other people, for that is their model of relationship. Bee says she has always wanted someone totally merged with her, but that degree of merging just doesn't happen in born life, naturally enough. To keep the Dream alive, all relationships go through a cycle:
  1. Encounter
  2. Rapid development of intimacy
  3. Desire for constant contact, 24/7
  4. Over - dependent and demanding behavior intrudes into the other person's private space,
  5. The other person is soon drained of empathy and energy and cannot maintain the relationship any longer.
  6. The other person asks for a complete separation
  7. The relationship ends permanently
 This is a perfect rendition of the "vanishing twin" situation:
  1. The twin is there, developing along side
  2. The relationship could hardly be more intimate!
  3. The contact is 24/7
  4. The Beta twin becomes less energetic so the Alpha twin takes over the blood supply
  5. The Beta twin stops reacting, dies and is gone.
  6. The relationship ends permanently
This is how  some monozygotic womb twin survivors ruin relationship by being too demanding - they are left alone again, naturally...........





2 comments:

  1. I thought over-dependent behaviour and co-dependency had to do with fraternal twinning? That's how understood it.

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  2. You said: "4. The Beta twin becomes less energetic so the Alpha twin takes over the blood supply. 5. The Beta twin stops reacting, dies and is gone."

    I'm a beta twin but my alpha twin died. Is it more like reversal process? Am I'm trying to be the Alpha, but fear of showing people my true Alpha self?

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