I've been flamed!

I have been the victim of a flaming attack!  Gosh. I don't know whether to be amused or annoyed. It's quite  sweet really- such a high degree of interest in every detail of my work!!  
I think I'll do my usual psychological thing and stand back and analyse this.......


Want to know what flaming is?


Flaming is the often deliberate act of posting or writing messages on Internet bulletin boards and message groups that have the intent of insulting or creating dissent within a group. An Internet flame is often filled with coarse language and personal insults. It is meant to hurt people’s feelings, get them fired up, and not to further conversation on a personal issue. It is never conversational, but it may be meant to upset an entire group, provoking conversation about someone’s flame or on the practice of flaming in general.

Sometimes egotism causes a person to practice flaming. A person may feel that his or her opinion is the only valid one on the subject and state so in an insulting way.

Some people theorize that flaming is common on the Internet because there is relative anonymity in Internet posting. People who flame are not that likely to actually insult people in person. Flaming on the Internet offers a degree of protection not likely to be afforded in a face-to-face conversation. 

http://www.wisegeek.com/what-is-flaming.htm

In my view, this is narcissism.  In fact, it's destructive narcissism, which is a particularly nasty way to be egotistical.  Well this is one person who should get out more, and maybe try thinking about other people's feelings.   Oh of course, I forgot. Egotistical people lack empathy. Cant do that. Can't see the truth when its standing there right before their very eyes. Pathetic.


You know the song

Some folks say that I'm "egotistical"
Well I don't even know what that means -
I guess it has something to do with the
Way that I fill out my skintight blue jeans.

I am also informed that to call a narcissistic person "a narcissistic person" is "a form of abuse."  I'm working on that.

This individual, with nothing more to do but send me emails, is a womb twin survivor.   Now there does seem to be a particular kind of wombtwin survivor whose psychology EXACTLY fits the criteria for narcissism.  I know several of them now: they destroy relationships, and then one party or the other gets out and leaves.  Meanwhile its always someone else's fault.

I left.

I wonder if the flaming will continue now I've gone?  I wonder if I'll get flamed on this blog? That would be a new experience. Once they have your email, they just go on and on. It's like an obsession.  I wonder if I can make a good link between narcissism and wombtwin survivors? I think I'll work on that. Let's see what happens next......

Vincent: womb twin survivor?

Vincent van Gogh presumably suffered a mental illness of some kind, or possibly a persobnality disorder, but what if we was a womb twin survivor?  He was very taken up with the cycle of life: he painted the sower, and the reaper. he painted wheat fields and  connected the fruitfulness of the wheat to death. He sat in a wheatfield  in full fruit and shot himself -  he was himself at his most fruitful and then he died at his own hand.

It is common among womb twin survivors to think about death a lot, even form a  young age, and suicidal feelings in young womb twin survivors are  also common. A womb tun survivor is the survivor of a twin pregnancy but one twin dies in the womb, leaving a sole survivor who is fuelled with grief and pain that has something to do with loneliness and death  but defies explanation. Such feelings haunt womb twin survivors, until they can at last find an explanation for their feelings and begin to come to terms with this loss.

It is interesting that Vincent had such a close relationship with his brother Theo, who he treated just like a twin, and it is also interesting that the method of suicide he chose was to shoot himself in the stomach not the head, so he was able to walk home and  let everybody know that he would die spoon, and then the could be there. To die in the arms of his brother would be like his Dream of the Womb revisited - here was  unity and death, closeness and love and dying.  Even to be alive was painful for Vincent. A tortured genius indeed.

read more here:

http://www.standpointmag.co.uk/comment/reply/2508

Womb Twin Ireland

I made an internet  search today to see how the term "womb twin" was doing, and found an article written by Andrew who started the WombTwin.ie blog.

You may like to read it. It's here.

If you like writing,  do seize every opportunity to put these ideas out there in any blogs, forums etc. you can find.

There are six hundred million womb twin survivors in the world, and we will have to work hard to reach even the tiniest percentage of them! (How did I work that figure out? See here.)

So well done Andrew! Keep up the good work.

Meanwhile, the book continues, with a new focus: the loss of a twin in the first three months of life. A deeply mysterious time in all our lives, that stretches the imagination and enlarges ones respect for the tenacity and delicacy of the human embryo.

I hope to have this in hand by the end of February.    What a journey!

Chapter Four finished

Its done. That was hard: it snowed which didnt help and in the UK that means chaos until it goes.

Anyhow its now with my book mentors and I await responses. It has been a dark journey, ending in a consideration of the abortion of one twin and multifetal pregnancy reduction. ( To reduce the number of foetuses in a multiple pregnancy by aborting some of them.)  No one has considered the possible psychological impact on the survivors, if any, because no one knows about this womb twin work and no one believes it matters if a twin or multiple dies early in pregnancy. ( Except for the survivors themselves)

They use potasssium chloride to kill these unwanted superfluous fetuses. An injection into the foetal heart muscle, guided by ultrasound scans. A lethal dose causes heart failure. They use it for capital punishment by lethal injection in some parts of the USA.  They use it in Switzerland for people who want to inject themselves to death.

I'm glad to have got that chapter over. It makes tough reading and some bits were horrible to write.  Not too many womb twin survivors of MFPR yet over the age of 5 or so, its quite new as a form of abortion, so this is a problem waiting for the therapists of the future to deal with.

I am trying to keep this book simple and accessible but I dont find much to be lighthearted about just now. Maybe later on, when we get to the part on healing for womb twin survivors.

Chapter four!

So far, I have written about fetal development, twinning and the death of a twin at birth.

Now we delve deeper into the mysteries of intrauterine life  and death - the womb story.

Now it's twin disruption sequence in monochorionic pregnancies  ( Yes there will be a glossary and I will explain these terns as I go!!)

Three days work and I have a mere 1900 words on the death of a twin in the second trimester. Remind me: why is this book SO important? Why must I strive to find the hours to pull it together NOW, despite a dozen reasons to put it off and do other things?

I hear you saying it:. "This book is important because few people fully understand the biology and almost no one truly gets the psychology of womb twin survivors.  You are linking the two.  So get on with it."

OK. Point taken.

Back to the keyboard of my trusty imac.


 (wipes brow, sips glass of wine......)