Sunday, January 20, 2013

Step 2: The vanishing twin - a conspiracy of silence

The biggest problem with being the sole survivor of vanishing twin syndrome is that no one ever speaks about it:  It's a conspiracy of silence............

1 Mum doesnt mention the little bit of bleeding and says its probably nothing
2 Dad is either never told or assumes the loss of one twin is of no account
3 The radiologist sees the second sac and says nothing about it
4 The doctor doesn't mention it either
5. The pregnancy proceeds with a few complications but no one attributes them to the vanished twin
6 The baby is born with a few problems but no one atributes these to the vanished twin

Then the child grows and begins to show psychological signs, but they are also misinterpreted
As a young adult this particular womb twin survivor realises that this is the answer to why he or she has always felt sad and empty inside, as if something is missing.

Grateful and glad for this insight, the womb twin survivor speaks about this to a menber of the family.

The response (of course) is silence.
The stories that womb twin survivors long to tell are a silent cry from the womb.
A collection of 70 stories written by womb twin survivors - £9.99 (all proceeds to Womb Twin)

 We are putting a voice to that silence, so this sad and untold story can be heard at last.

I was told today that if you have a good story, never told before, that is almost a guarantee that a publisher will take it on - I have tried that. I sent out proposals and so forth. The resul;t?

SILENCE.








3 comments:

  1. Then I suggest we never stop speaking. Silence can only be conquered by speaking. Even one word will destroy silence. Go guys! Speak!

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  2. My second-born son, who in now an adult, was diagnosed with autism and schizophrenia. When I was pregnant with him, I experienced some bleeding, but as this was over 30 years ago, and I didn't have adequate insurance, I was not sent for an ultrasound. My son and I have a very good relationship and we discuss everything. I have asked him if he felt like he had a twin with him in the beginning (I believe it may have been a girl, because my son is gay) He said no, but he hasn't quashed the idea completely. I have read in many internet sites that autism and schizophrenia are two of the diagnoses that often develop as a result of vanishing twins.I think that these discussions, whether private or in a public forum, are wonderful and they are the only way to shed light on this very unusual topic. More people need to be made aware, as this affects so many of us. I tell people about it as much as I can. Sometimes I am met with a stunned silence and a shrug of the shoulders, but oftentimes, people look at me with a shocked (and even relieved) look and say, "Oh My God, I have felt that way all my life and didn't know it was an actual condition!" It is wonderful to finally put a name to what it is and get all those feelings out!!Talking about it will only help everyone to finally get out of the darkness.

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  3. I agree! I do think that one of the best ways to help womb twin survivors is simply to talk about it where we can.I like the idea of being a healing ambassador - this is a person who uses their own story to reach out to others. I am planning a free ebook of womb twin survivor stories - that may help. There is a link on the sidebar for sending your story for publication. They are always published anonymously with all identifiable details edited out. ( See the stories in A Silent Cry for what I mean....)

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