There has been a lot of interest in keeping December 21st as Wombtwin day, and it would be good to know that the idea is being spread around. I had an email exchange with a man from Australia just yesterday on a separate subject and it came up that he lost his twin two days after birth. When I told him about the solstice being Wombtwin Day, he loved the idea and decided to go walking and think about his twin. In over 40 years he has never given his twin a name but I would not be at all surprised if on this walk a name comes to him.
It may be that you are a wombtwin survivor yourself reading this, and you want to remember the day but have no clear idea what to do: the following is a suggestion.
One idea seems to be central when I talk with people about this: the idea of a river seems strong, and casting something into the water to flow gently away.
I suggest, in the interests of the environment, that flower petals (always a good symbol of a little life cut short) be gathered into a special little box, with the name of the lost twin written on the lid. Then by a river or maybe the sea, you can send your twin into the light with all your love, by casting the petals into the water and letting them float away. The empty box can be kept until next year.
I do hope that as many wombtwin survivors as possible will tell me later what they did. Certainly for some people this idea and this action will be the first step towards healing. I would love to learn more, to help more people, so please post a comment.
When a twin dies before birth, the sole survivor needs help and understanding. Womb twin survivors are the sole survivors of a twin or multiple pregnancy. This group, 1 in 10 of the population, includes survivors of a stillbirth, miscarriage, abortion and a "vanishing twin" pregnancy. It is a story of a twin bond broken by death, leaving a lonely survivor.
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