The identical twin bond is different

There has been some interest in the idea of finding surrogate twin to help the healing. As a fraternal twin survivor I have been taught by identical twin survivors that being an identical wombtwin survivor is very different from my experience.

Here is a quote from a young woman who found out that she was conceived as an identical twin. She quickly came to understand how this had been at work in her life;

I'm comfortable with the idea that her death was the will of God, that she's in a better place and is happier for it, and that she's still able to watch over me. I'm definitely protective of my twin and of my image of her. I identity with her. I don't like people brushing her off as a manifestation of my imagination, or as being something that's “only within the realm of possibility but not terribly likely.” I love her, regardless of what a short time she lived or that no one else was aware of her but me. That doesn't make her any less real or any less my twin and my sister.

I've always been searching for someone to share with at a level that everyone else just falls short of reaching. It's like I've always been looking for that special twin intimacy, but never really finding it - at least, not in one person. I've resigned myself to looking for different things in different people, rather than expecting to find absolutely everything that I need emotionally, in one package. I'm probably overly-open and empathise too easily, share too readily, because I'm always looking for that connection that sub-consciously, I feel I would have had with my twin.

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