Self defeating behaviour

(An excerpt from my new book:)

Womb twin survivors have a vast range of self-defeating ways to choose from to sabotage their lives, drive their most intimate relationships to destruction, or both. Self-defeating behaviour is essentially selfish, but subjectively it doesn’t feel that way: the results can be favourable but only for a while. The end result is usually negative and can be devastating.

This kind of behaviour has been included among the symptoms of schizophrenia and it has even been suggested that a new “Self-defeating Personality Disorder” be created, for high levels of distress and personal impairment are involved in this set of attitudes. A study among psychiatrists and clinical psychologists in the USA and Britain found that a very large number of patients were presenting with this set of symptoms, for which the only diagnosis available was “personality disorder not previously specified.” The clinicians may be mystified, but for womb twin survivors there is a perfectly normal and reasonable explanation: this is a specific re-enactment of a pre-birth tragedy. A great deal of personal happiness and fulfillment is being deliberately sacrificed in memory of a lost twin.

If you are a womb twin survivor, it may help you to know that there are good reasons why you have chosen one kind of self-defeating behaviour over another. A personal study of the particular way you have chosen to sabotage your life will take you straight back to the womb and give you a clear rendition of what went on in the womb all those years ago, as we shall see. You survived but your twin didn’t, that seems to be the crucial issue.  However, there is a bit more to it than that.

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