This week we remember the tragic death of John Lennon, and as a consequence there is a great deal of discussion about his wild personality and crazy lifestyle, his dysfunctional relationships and his great genuis. However few people realise that here is another womb twin survivor who never knew what was wrong.
I have written about him before here. I have also written about borderline personality disorder, which accurately decribes this tortured genuis in psychiatric terms, but this is no psychiatric disorder. John Lennon was a perfectly normal womb twin survivor, but he did not know that there was hope and healing for him, if he had only known who to ask for it. He tried primal therapy, which suggests that he was pondering on some early trauma, but Janovs work did not go back far enough. If he had gone back to the earliest time in the womb he would have found his lost twin sister. Then he would have understood and his life would have made sense at last.
If you visit the CNN site you can hear his son Julian speak about his father, who abandoned him many times. So many womb twin survivors, so afraid of abandonment, are the ones who leave. On the same site you can also see David Sheff,in "The lost weekend". He wrote about John Lennon and knew him better than most. Hear him say that John "wanted to die".
Womb twin survivors will be familar with this idea, as sucidal ideation is common, even among children. But its not so much a desire to die but a failure to fully arrive in the world; to live half here and half elsewhere, so that you dont care if you live or die.
My new book, "Womb twin survivors, the lost twin in the Dream of the Womb", and the entire eight years of work that lie behind the creation of it, is dedicated to the memory of all those womb twin survivors who did not win their lifelong battle against despair, just because there was no one who understood why it hurt them so much to be alive.
When a twin dies before birth, the sole survivor needs help and understanding. Womb twin survivors are the sole survivors of a twin or multiple pregnancy. This group, 1 in 10 of the population, includes survivors of a stillbirth, miscarriage, abortion and a "vanishing twin" pregnancy. It is a story of a twin bond broken by death, leaving a lonely survivor.
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