It's very important to avoid idealising your lost twin. This sole survivor imagines all kinds of lovely scenarios that may have come about, had her twin survived, but we also know that identical twins in particular fight for exactly the same psychic space. It can be hard to retain some sense of individuality, so if that is a problem for you, being left alone to make your own life is not altogether a bad thing.
Of course when an identical twin dies, the grief and loss is enormous, because you have lost half of yourself, the other half of your own soul.
There is the conflict - to be whole and grieving or to be half and together but in perpetual rivalry.
Any identical (monozygotic) twin survivors want to comment? All comments welcomed.
When a twin dies before birth, the sole survivor needs help and understanding. Womb twin survivors are the sole survivors of a twin or multiple pregnancy. This group, 1 in 10 of the population, includes survivors of a stillbirth, miscarriage, abortion and a "vanishing twin" pregnancy. It is a story of a twin bond broken by death, leaving a lonely survivor.
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