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Showing posts with label abortion survivor. Show all posts
Showing posts with label abortion survivor. Show all posts

Tuesday, November 01, 2011

A twin lost to abortion

Last week I was at a conference about healing for men and women after abortion, speaking about how my own twin brother was lost in an abortion attempt. I dont often speak about it because I do not want the whole Womb Twin project to get hijacked by the abortion debate, but today I changed my mind.

I now know that the material out there on the internet about how a twin may survive an abortion has saved one womb twin survivor's life.  So no more silence from me on the matter : this is far too important!

I shall call him Mark, and he told me in his questionnaire that he was sitting in his own sitting room with his family, writing a suicide note when he had a new idea and found new hope:

Thursday, September 15, 2011

DZ womb twin survivors - preoccupation with pregnancy and birth

DZ womb twin survivors of both sexes seem to be preoccupied with pregnancy and birth and also have strong feelings about it.  This includes pregnancy and birth issues, miscarriage, abortion, stillbirth, neonatal death, infant death and the death of a child of any age.  If a DZ womb  twin survivor finds out that he or she will never have a child, this becomes a particular focus for grief and loss. This appears to be a simple transference of the feelings of loss of the womb twin onto another baby.

The current president of the Association of Pre and Perinatal Psychology and health is a womb twin survivor, and many of the pregnancy and birth experts who I have had contact with during the last eight years of this project have also been womb twin survivors. I would go so far as to say that, if someone is very interested in life before birth, there is something going on in their minds about their own pre-birth experience.

My own preoccupation with the unborn, which started in 1977 and still continues, may be a good example of this (I am a DZ womb twin survivor.)

Tuesday, April 05, 2011

Signs of a twin conception (5) attempted abortion but pregnancy continues

When a woman goes for an abortion but is unknowingly pregnant with twins, she may remain pregnant afterwards if both babies have not been removed. Some women in this situation may attempt a claim for compensation to cover the cost of bringing up the remaining unexpected child. One such claim was successful. Kim Nicholls, from Staffordshire in England, successfully claimed £10,000 compensation when she was given an injection to abort her pregnancy yet remained pregnant and delivered a healthy daughter some months later.  As a result of successful claims such as these, doctors are now advised to take particular care.

A 28-year-old Yugoslav immigrant, simply called J.B. in court documents, sought an abortion in October 1997. Sadly and tragically, neither J.B. nor the clinic personnel knew that J.B. was pregnant with twins and that only one of the fetuses was aborted. J.B. returned to the clinic two weeks later and made subsequent calls complaining of pregnancy-like symptoms. Told her symptoms were normal, J.B. finally demanded a urine sample in February 1998. The very same nurse who told J.B. her condition was normal came back horrified with the news that she was still pregnant. By that point, the fetus was nearly six months old so Planned Parenthood apologized and rushed her out the door to a provider who was licensed to do second trimester abortions. An ultrasound revealed that the remaining fetus had only one arm and one leg; the second abortion took three days.  

Stories such as these have been useful to those who would prefer that abortions were not carried out at all ( see here)  but it would seem that little or no thought has been given to the sole survivors. 

It has been suggested that being  womb twin survivor and also the survivor of an abortion  causes separation anxiety ( the fear of abandonment)  plus annihilation anxiety ( fear of being extinguished altogether).

The abortion does not have to be violent, such as with a suction tube or a knife. It can be a miscarriage, induced by a herb, or a drug.

There are many people who survived abortion because they were once twins (see this page)

Many people contact me via my web site and tell me a story of a "failed" abortion.  The dead twin may not be delivered, but remain inside the womb as a dead body. 

For example, Carrie said 
"My mother took the herb ergot to induce contractions and abort the pregnancy at 4 months - my twin died at between 4-5 months but the pregnancy continued - I survived and held myself still in the womb next to my dead twin - afraid to move.  Until 28 years old after my mother had died, I had thought that my twin's death was my fault.

I have tried to understand why a woman (my mother) would feel able to abort the pregnancy. On one level of course I understand her and even thought it a brave thing to do as my parents didn't get on although they stayed together, and they were quite poor so it could have been for those reasons.  On another level I am very hurt and angry by all this - after all she tried to kill me and my twin did die as a consequence.  What am I supposed to do with that?"

The after effects can be subtle: for instance one woman whose twin was aborted but who was never told, discovered the issue of abortion at the age of 33 and became obsessed with it, thinking of it all day every day, and talking of little else. She then decided that more attention should be given to the dead babies that are miscarried or stillborn and spent another 10 years thinking of little else but how to honour their precious little lives.  Then she realised, aged 55 years old,  that she was the survivor of an abortion attempt and that this was why she had been so obsessed with abortion and the rights of the unborn child. She then launched into another project, trying to learn more about sole surviving twins.   She is of course the author of this blog.....

Friday, January 07, 2011

The wrong twin

Did you ever feel that you were the wrong twin, that it would have been better if your twin was the one to survive?

There is a process called "selective reduction of pregnancy." A Doctor kills one baby with a chemical injection (the same drug is used in criminal executions) and leaves the other to survive alongside the dead body.

Here is a story of when the wrong twin died, at least according to the idea that babies with Down's syndrome are better off dead ( or rather, that mothers with a Down's syndrome baby would rather not be saddled with a disabled child.)  The doctor aborted the healthy twin by mistake.

A Sarasota OB-GYN who was supposed to abort an abnormal fetus in a twin pregnancy but leave the normal one alone made the worst kind of mistake: He got the twins mixed up and injected a killing chemical into the healthy one.

At a weekend meeting in Tampa, the Florida Board of Medicine revoked Dr. Matthew J. Kachinas’ license for that complaint and two others that involved less-serious charges.

After the board’s unanimous vote to revoke his license, Kachinas appeared stunned and confused. “What does that mean, revocation? I don’t understand.”

Department of Health officials told him he could appeal to the courts and suggested he consult a lawyer. But a despondent Kachinas told a reporter after the hearing that he intended to kill himself. Police took him to a hospital for evaluation.

Kachinas, 50, was one of the few OB-GYNs in Florida who still accepted elective abortion patients in the 24th week of pregnancy, according to his testimony during a formal hearing in the case in November before an administrative law judge. That is the last week of the second trimester, and while elective abortion is legal then, testimony in this case showed it is difficult to obtain because many doctors and nurses don’t want to be involved.

The wrong-twin case, which took place in 2006, involved a pregnancy of 15 weeks in a patient identified only by initials, K.M. It was not an abortion per se, in which the uterus is emptied and the pregnancy ends, but a “selective reduction” – a technique that involves reducing the number of fetuses to be carried to term. The physician uses ultrasound to see where the fetuses are positioned in the uterus and then injects a chemical through the abdomen into the one that is targeted for elimination.

The dead fetus is not removed from the woman’s body but tends to shrivel and be partly reabsorbed. The remaining fetuses are usually not affected.
 
When we start messing about with the normal processes of reproduction, too often we end up with tragedy.

Babies come when they are ready. We can't control nature to that extent. We just have to provide better emotional and physical support for mothers whose babies are disabled in some kind of way.

This makes angry and very, very sad.

But I will have great news tomorrow! Check in to find out........

Tuesday, October 13, 2009

Carl- Abortion survivor

I have made a movie about Carl, who is a womb twin survivor and whose twin was lost because of an abortion attempt.


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