If you are a womb twin survivor, you have been re-enacting your Dream of the Womb in your relationships with other people. A particular way to prevent yourself having a full life is to deny yourself any contact with others at all. Self-isolation is a brilliant way to prevent any further betrayals and losses happening in what feels like the "dangerous world of born life. "
Let us wander through the Thesaurus and find some ways to self-isolate :
When a twin dies before birth, the sole survivor needs help and understanding. Womb twin survivors are the sole survivors of a twin or multiple pregnancy. This group, 1 in 10 of the population, includes survivors of a stillbirth, miscarriage, abortion and a "vanishing twin" pregnancy. It is a story of a twin bond broken by death, leaving a lonely survivor.
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Tuesday, November 22, 2011
Monday, November 07, 2011
Leonard Cohen : womb twin survivor?
There are many movies about Leonard Cohen, and in this one he speaks about his sense of spirituality; about a prayer he keeps making to someone or something beyond. He speaks about an endless, un-nameable longing that drives him and his work. He writes about love, death and salvation, and a lifelong burden..... he speaks of a fundamental loneliness that even his own children cannot assuage...
He talks about so much that is typical of womb twin survivors. He speaks about a personal level of distress and suffering, bewilderment, and sense of having "screwed up badly."
He is now a Zen monk. He is honest, open and humble and displays the very best that womb twin survivors have to offer, but the one thing he does not realise is that the loss of his twin is why he hurts so much and this is why he wrote about his "mirror twin." (See my blog about that.
I wish I could tell him. I'm sure it would help him to find himself at last.
He talks about so much that is typical of womb twin survivors. He speaks about a personal level of distress and suffering, bewilderment, and sense of having "screwed up badly."
He is now a Zen monk. He is honest, open and humble and displays the very best that womb twin survivors have to offer, but the one thing he does not realise is that the loss of his twin is why he hurts so much and this is why he wrote about his "mirror twin." (See my blog about that.
I wish I could tell him. I'm sure it would help him to find himself at last.
Monday, October 24, 2011
Narcissus: the urge to merge
The sole survivor of a monozygotic twin may seek to merge with other people, for that is their model of relationship. Bee says she has always wanted someone totally merged with her, but that degree of merging just doesn't happen in born life, naturally enough. To keep the Dream alive, all relationships go through a cycle:
- Encounter
- Rapid development of intimacy
- Desire for constant contact, 24/7
- Over - dependent and demanding behavior intrudes into the other person's private space,
- The other person is soon drained of empathy and energy and cannot maintain the relationship any longer.
- The other person asks for a complete separation
- The relationship ends permanently
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