What is in your Black Hole? If you are a womb twin survivor and feel as if you shouldn't be here at all, here is a lovely reminder of how life itself is a gift.
The womb twin work is mainly about reconnecting with the life YOU have, that is distinct from your twin's little short life. It is entirely yours. If you don't live it, no one will.
So here is the perfect antidote to survivor guilt: GRATITUDE!!
Matt started out being photographed all over the world and then he started dancing with people.... this is how he explained what became his way of life for a few years...
This just came to me today - I was supposed to write about womb twin kids today and how parents can play special games with their children to help them to speak about the lost twin to each other and along came dancing.
Maybe dancing with your kids to celebrate life is better than worrying about what to say!
Have a great day and when the Black Hole beckons ( watch this if you dont know what I mean) remember always to dance!
When a twin dies before birth, the sole survivor needs help and understanding. Womb twin survivors are the sole survivors of a twin or multiple pregnancy. This group, 1 in 10 of the population, includes survivors of a stillbirth, miscarriage, abortion and a "vanishing twin" pregnancy. It is a story of a twin bond broken by death, leaving a lonely survivor.
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Tuesday, April 26, 2011
Tuesday, April 12, 2011
A healing path (3) From guilt to gratitude
THE PRACTICE OF LIVING IN THE MOMENT - guilt into gratitude
In this stage, you will transform survivor guilt into an awareness that your ability to live is a gift in itself. This great gift of life has been make known to us by many writers and thinkers down the centuries.
God gave us the gift of life; it is up to us to give ourselves the gift of living well. Voltaire
Life is the first gift, love is the second, and understanding the third. Marge Piercy
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Now you can waken up to the gift of life as it is revealed to you. A life free of shame guilt and anxiety has already been awarded to you but survivor guilt has made you block yourself from receiving it. The energy and power given to you to enable you to live in this way has always been within you but you have expressed it in a variety of self defeating behaviours. The prospect of a fulfilling life is distributed free, donated without conditions, handed over for your use without any cost to yourself, but you would not pay the price, which is to let go and let things be as they may.
To live “in the now” enables many things to be visible at last. In the now you can arise from your sleep, arrive in the present and allow yourself to be revealed to others in your whole person, warts and all, without any fear of being ashamed. Now you can emerge, grow and develop into fullness.
The feeling that comes when the whole world is yours, and you are allowed to be happy, and succeed, is not so much exhilarating as scary. As I moved into healing, I recognised that my twin had gone and the psychic space he had been taking up was all mine. It was like coming into a mysterious inheritance of untold riches, which were revealed, not all at once but gradually.
Piece by piece and one by one, long-delayed projects just arise as an idea and complete themselves. I began letting the energy of this Womb twin project carry me forward and the speed of forward movement has been breathtaking.
In this stage, you will transform survivor guilt into an awareness that your ability to live is a gift in itself. This great gift of life has been make known to us by many writers and thinkers down the centuries.
God gave us the gift of life; it is up to us to give ourselves the gift of living well. Voltaire
Life is the first gift, love is the second, and understanding the third. Marge Piercy
Read more quotes like this...
Now you can waken up to the gift of life as it is revealed to you. A life free of shame guilt and anxiety has already been awarded to you but survivor guilt has made you block yourself from receiving it. The energy and power given to you to enable you to live in this way has always been within you but you have expressed it in a variety of self defeating behaviours. The prospect of a fulfilling life is distributed free, donated without conditions, handed over for your use without any cost to yourself, but you would not pay the price, which is to let go and let things be as they may.
To live “in the now” enables many things to be visible at last. In the now you can arise from your sleep, arrive in the present and allow yourself to be revealed to others in your whole person, warts and all, without any fear of being ashamed. Now you can emerge, grow and develop into fullness.
The feeling that comes when the whole world is yours, and you are allowed to be happy, and succeed, is not so much exhilarating as scary. As I moved into healing, I recognised that my twin had gone and the psychic space he had been taking up was all mine. It was like coming into a mysterious inheritance of untold riches, which were revealed, not all at once but gradually.
Piece by piece and one by one, long-delayed projects just arise as an idea and complete themselves. I began letting the energy of this Womb twin project carry me forward and the speed of forward movement has been breathtaking.
Its all about making an end to survivor guilt, and letting life be all yours. Simple, but possibly the most difficult decision you will ever make.
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