In the Black Hole, which is the story of the death of your womb twin, is also the story of your twin's brief life, which could be measured in hours, days or months, depending on what happened. The trouble is that a promise was made at conception, that there would be two, but then there was one.
That sense of a disappointed expectation is a betrayal. It's a sense of being precipitated into an alien world for which one is not equipped. Betrayal breeds resentment in the betrayed, and when life betrays you, there can be no other response but to resent life itself. Life has been cruel and you have been hurt by the simple act of being the sole survivor. That is a raw deal indeed.
When a twin dies before birth, the sole survivor needs help and understanding. Womb twin survivors are the sole survivors of a twin or multiple pregnancy. This group, 1 in 10 of the population, includes survivors of a stillbirth, miscarriage, abortion and a "vanishing twin" pregnancy. It is a story of a twin bond broken by death, leaving a lonely survivor.
Showing posts with label guilt. Show all posts
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Monday, November 21, 2011
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