People say we don't remember the womb : watch this
I may write a dozen books on this subject, but few people will read them, make utube videos and people will simply jeer at them; talk on radio and TV and have people switch off; speak at conferences and no one will listen. We are at risk of vanishing in silence just like all the vanished twins that we seek to represent, if we do not speak out, however we can, wherever we can.
The sceptics are sceptical because they are afraid of being wrong. This sounds far too outlandish for any sensible person trained (? indoctrinated ?) into the ways of so-called "Critical Thinking". The perceived need for such thinking may also be a delusion, for we need no "critical" thinking to see what is obvious and all about us, hidden in plain sight.
When a twin dies before birth, the sole survivor needs help and understanding. Womb twin survivors are the sole survivors of a twin or multiple pregnancy. This group, 1 in 10 of the population, includes survivors of a stillbirth, miscarriage, abortion and a "vanishing twin" pregnancy. It is a story of a twin bond broken by death, leaving a lonely survivor.
Showing posts with label scepticism. Show all posts
Showing posts with label scepticism. Show all posts
Friday, November 11, 2011
Saturday, March 26, 2011
The message: (5) radio and TV
The loss of a twin before birth is a common but little-known phenomenon. There are sceptics everywhere.
Radio
I was listening again to a 2008 BBC Three Counties radio programme where I was interviewed on the phone at 6 am by an extremely skepical DJ, who spoke the words "womb twin survivor" as if they were the weirdest words he had ever heard and I must be a crazy woman to believe any of it. The DJ was not a womb twin survivor and every time he mentioned "womb twins" it was in a highly sceptical and slightly tone of voice.
He said it had sounded as if I was "just pandering to people who have weird feelings." I don't know if I convinced him - after all, there would be precious few listeners at 6am! I have learned in this job not to bother trying to convince people that this is a real effect. If they need convincing they are not womb twin survivors, and no amount of persuasion is going to change their opinion.
TV
But what happens when there is a rather more accepting approach? When the wonderful national geographic film Life in the womb was aired on ITV they tried to find someone who was carrying a vanishing twin pregnancy. I knew they would never get someone like that and they needed someone the next day, so I contacted them and sure enough the next day I was being filmed. I was interviewed for 20 minutes and out of it they took 20 seconds.
At no stage was it implied in any way that I was crazy or mistaken. But of course both people in the room where the film was made, though not womb twin survivors themselves, had a womb twin survivor in the family.
Passing on the Womb Twin message can be hard: scepticism, especially when coupled with narcissism, (the need always to be correct and be the only one who really knows the truth) is the very worst. It is much better when the people concerned are open-minded, or have some personal experience of this.
"They all laughed at Christopher Columbus, when he said the world was round......?
To quote that song, we will get the last laugh in the end:
So you've seen the movie - now read the book!
I was listening again to a 2008 BBC Three Counties radio programme where I was interviewed on the phone at 6 am by an extremely skepical DJ, who spoke the words "womb twin survivor" as if they were the weirdest words he had ever heard and I must be a crazy woman to believe any of it. The DJ was not a womb twin survivor and every time he mentioned "womb twins" it was in a highly sceptical and slightly tone of voice.
He said it had sounded as if I was "just pandering to people who have weird feelings." I don't know if I convinced him - after all, there would be precious few listeners at 6am! I have learned in this job not to bother trying to convince people that this is a real effect. If they need convincing they are not womb twin survivors, and no amount of persuasion is going to change their opinion.
TV
But what happens when there is a rather more accepting approach? When the wonderful national geographic film Life in the womb was aired on ITV they tried to find someone who was carrying a vanishing twin pregnancy. I knew they would never get someone like that and they needed someone the next day, so I contacted them and sure enough the next day I was being filmed. I was interviewed for 20 minutes and out of it they took 20 seconds.
At no stage was it implied in any way that I was crazy or mistaken. But of course both people in the room where the film was made, though not womb twin survivors themselves, had a womb twin survivor in the family.
Passing on the Womb Twin message can be hard: scepticism, especially when coupled with narcissism, (the need always to be correct and be the only one who really knows the truth) is the very worst. It is much better when the people concerned are open-minded, or have some personal experience of this.
"They all laughed at Christopher Columbus, when he said the world was round......?
To quote that song, we will get the last laugh in the end:
So you've seen the movie - now read the book!
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