MZ womb twin survivors - finding a kindred spirit

The MZ womb twin survivor always seeks out a kindred spirit - someone who is similar is some way, either in looks, or behaviour or interests or beliefs.

For example, Eva loves people, and is always inviting people to her house to feed them sumptuous meals, but she is always somehow in the back ground of the group, serving the food. However  if she finds someone who agrees with her opinions or who likes to do what she likes to do, she becomes excessively excited and awakens  in a way, and feels very happy and contented.

IT is not unusual for young MZ survivors to talk about " another me" and be interested in their own mirror image, for here at last is the missing identical twin!

At school there is the Best Friend, who is always there, and you do  everything together.  Julie, who has  severe cerebral palsy ( a condition associated with the loss of an MZ twin before birth)  and  spent her youth at a special school for the disabled,  asked only for a twin pram for her dolls and  when she was sent away to school made an instant and lifelong bond with another girl, and insisted in being next to her at all times. The other girl had  great difficulty communicating but Julie always knew what she wanted.

Can a parent replace a lost twin?

As we continue to explore parenting and womb twin survivors, we uncover a kind of  co-dependency between parent and child. This can be very painful and damaging for both parties and can take a womb twin survivor into therapy, faced with complex relationship difficulties that will persist as long as the issue of being a womb twin survivor remains unaddressed.  I'll try to clarify a few of these difficulties today: the question is, can a parent replace a lost twin?