The deep fear of abandonment experienced by co-dependent womb twin survivors is not caused by abuse or neglect of primary caregivers, or experiences of being left alone and helpless. The original abandonment scenario occurred long before birth, when after many weeks of being in the company of a responsive, active little twin,the twin ceased to be responsive or active and there was ony stillness and silence.
The fear of abandonment is regarded as a sign of a "personality disorder" Nbut it is completely normal, under the very specific circumstances experienced by a dizygotic (DZ) womb twin survivor before birth.
This is also known as "separation anxiety" and there is some concern that working parents may be a possib le cause parents are themselves deeply concerned when their child is unable to tolerate separation.
Everyone is worried, theories are bandied about, but no one knows that the fear of abandonment was put in place long before birth.
When a twin dies before birth, the sole survivor needs help and understanding. Womb twin survivors are the sole survivors of a twin or multiple pregnancy. This group, 1 in 10 of the population, includes survivors of a stillbirth, miscarriage, abortion and a "vanishing twin" pregnancy. It is a story of a twin bond broken by death, leaving a lonely survivor.
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