Blighted ova, blighted lives?

A blighted ovum- where biology meets belief?

Your wombtwin may have been a “blighted ovum.” Some embryos don’t get past the first few days of cell division because the chromosomes in the egg are flawed. This blastocyst is ”blighted” and will never develop past the earliest stages. There is a little placenta but does not grow or function. There is a sac, but the embryo, such as it is, does not develop much beyond the very earliest stages. This embryo is doomed to die at the start, and all that remains is the sac, placenta and cord.

This is the classic “vanishing twin” scenario. The first scan shows two sacs, the second only one. The first is no longer visible. We do not know what happens to blighted ova, but it is probable that the empty sac that is often seen attached to the placenta at birth is all that remains. Apart from a very brief life, this was an inert, empty and lifeless presence, always alongside. At birth you were separated forever.

Yet were you? By the time you were born you were bonded to this tiny but doomed little being. Is it possible that all your life you have held back, believing that your life must also be blighted by an inability to come fully alive?

If you are a loser, dogged by misfortune, the perpetual victim, could this be the self defeating pre-birth impression you carry?

This is only a fetal assumption, made in the real belief that this little person, who never managed to implant properly and develop into a born child, once had something to do with you. Wrong! It's another little person entirely - your long lost twin sister or brother, in fact.

Time to recognise that the blighted life of your wombtwin does not mean you have to live a blighted life yourself. You are the survivor - life is yours for the taking , if you can only forgive yourself for the sin of being alive at all. A full, rich life is your inheritance - time to claim it. Do it now, and let me know how that feels!

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The solstice : Wombtwin day Dec 21st, 2007

There has been a lot of interest in keeping December 21st as Wombtwin day, and it would be good to know that the idea is being spread around. I had an email exchange with a man from Australia just yesterday on a separate subject and it came up that he lost his twin two days after birth. When I told him about the solstice being Wombtwin Day, he loved the idea and decided to go walking and think about his twin. In over 40 years he has never given his twin a name but I would not be at all surprised if on this walk a name comes to him.

It may be that you are a wombtwin survivor yourself reading this, and you want to remember the day but have no clear idea what to do: the following is a suggestion.

One idea seems to be central when I talk with people about this: the idea of a river seems strong, and casting something into the water to flow gently away.

I suggest, in the interests of the environment, that flower petals (always a good symbol of a little life cut short) be gathered into a special little box, with the name of the lost twin written on the lid. Then by a river or maybe the sea, you can send your twin into the light with all your love, by casting the petals into the water and letting them float away. The empty box can be kept until next year.

I do hope that as many wombtwin survivors as possible will tell me later what they did. Certainly for some people this idea and this action will be the first step towards healing. I would love to learn more, to help more people, so please post a comment.

Murder suicide again!

So once again the pattern is replicated: a young man plans his suicide, and kills himself, but before he does so he kills others.

A gun rampage. they call it.

I have said before, and I will say it again. We need to investigate suicide, and in particular murder suicide, in terms of perbirth experience.

Robert Hawkins, 19, from Bellevue, Nebraska, was a quiet loner who had been treated for depression, was like a lost puppy wanting to be rescued. He had left home for reasons that were not quite clear and felt life was meaningless. He obviously felt utterly abandoned and alone and did not want to live any more.

That painful and terrible loneliness was exacerbated by the loss of his girlfriend. It is possible that this poor man died because it was just too painful for him to live? Feeling abandoned, feeling terribly alone even among friends, feeling depressed and wanting to die are all feelings familiar to wombtwin survivors. Wombtwin survivors are not all murderers, of course, but is it possible that some people filled with murderous rage are wombtwin survivors? We dont know - not because we cannot know- but simply because we have not learned to ask the right questions.

The right question is: why did this man not want to live?

Will someone - anyone - at least consider the possibility that this man was a wombtwin survivor? Will anyone ask his mother about her pregnancy? No. People will shake their heads in despair and wonder what the country/world is coming to, while a silent prebirth story is being acted out by desperate people. No one knows how to articulate this prebirth story except in terms of mindless violence and death.

We need to carry out more research into the possible pre-birth origins of murder and murder suicide in particular. The therapy is already in place, but no one has yet learned to identify who needs the therapy.

If anyone out there wants to know more about how this therapy may be applied, get in touch.

An annual Wombtwin day?

I have been researching St Thomas, called "The Twin" in the Bible, whose feast day is celebrated variously. This is what the Encyclopedia Brittannica has to say on the subject:

Saint Thomas born , probably Galilee

Died c. AD 53, Madras, India; Western feast day December 21, feast day in Roman and Syrian Catholic churches July 3, in the Greek church October 6

The July 3rd Festival of Twins is now well established, but that would not be the best date for surviving twins. We need another date.

Now December 21st would be good: it's 7 months before Twins Day and many twins "vanish" at around 8 weeks. It make sense also because it's a dark time and yet, once it is past, we are moving slowly and gently into the light of a new summer. So many surviving twins who have walked the Healing path with me are in a very dark place until they let their twin go - and almost at once they too are moving towards the light.

Also, being in those busy days before Christmas, many surviving twins find Christmas so hard, and it would be good to spend some time remembering our lost twins before we plunge into the festivities.

So I have made a decision: I will keep December 21st this year and every year as a special Wombtwin Day. I will spend some time remembering my twin and thanking him for all the gifts he has given me: this project being just one!!

Who would like to join me in doing this? Do post a comment if you have a good idea about what to do, and let's gather some good ideas together via this blog.

Wishing you well on your special day

Althea

We need a documentary film about this!

I look around at the subjects that documentary films deal with and I wonder if anyone will ever make a film about vanishing twin phenomenon and the effect on the people who are the born survivors?

One in ten people is a wombtwin survivor. There are 600 million wombtwin survivors in the world. There are 6 million in the UK. That's a huge potential audience, not to mention the skeptics who will want to argue that the whole idea of any psychological effect on wombtwin survivors is baloney (including of course the few who still cling to the idea that the vanishing twins were abducted by aliens....)

Quite a story.

Any film makers out there?